Sunday, December 30, 2007

Wednesday, November 7, 2007

Grace finally turned!!!

Today, we placed Grace on the new "playground" we just bought for her ... and know what, for the first time (I suppose but not so sure), Grace turned and rest on her belly on her own!!! But its a pity that we missed that precious moments ...

We placed her on her back, resting on the new playground. After playing with her for a while, Papa gets tired and turned his attention to TV. I looked at her for a while more, and suddenly remembered that I had a missed call earlier on. Thus, I turn around and take out my handphone from my bag. And the moment I turn back, looking at Grace, she is already lying on her belly playing with her own!!! She had turned and rest on her belly in just less than 5 seconds ... and we MISSED this historical moment .. what a shame!

I had been worrying why she is slow in turning .. but with today's happening, me and my hubby believed that Grace had already know how to turn long time ago but did not do it very often. If not, she would not be able to turn so fast, so smoothly and without any cry of struggle :P

So happy! Grace jiayou! Next milestone will be crawling :D

Saturday, October 27, 2007

Our Daughter's Name Part II

Well, I did not finish with talking about our daughter's name the other time. Based on my dialect group (Hokkien), Grace dialect name should be - Lee Tok Eng. However, as the sound of "Tok" doesn't sounds too nice in Hokkien (it sounds like chopping), we have decided to use "Chok" instead. So when some people ask on her name...we will say "Oh..you know Goh Chok Tong? The same Chok lor." Well, it is good to associate your name with something good.

Lastly, Grace..do you know why your name "Grace" is not after your dialect name like "Lee Chok Eng, Grace"? It's because we wonder if the comma is part of your name. Anyway, it looks a bit weird with the comma right?

Saturday, October 13, 2007

Happiness

Almost a decade ago (31 Oct 97 to be precise), I wrote this in my personal journal....
"For years, I've always thought that happiness is something out there, something that we should pursue. But now, I realize that happiness is not without but within us! It's a inner emotion. We're all born with happiness just inside us, ready to be felt by us once we are willing to accept it. Happiness can't be pursued, it can only be felt. We pursue our goals in life but most of the time, after obtaining our goals, do we feel happy? Or do we ask for more? The journey towards achieving our goals is itself happiness. The freedom and freewill we have in pursuing our goals is itself happiness. The strength and courage we have in pursuing these goals is itself happiness. Happiness lies with us, depending on whether we want to embrace it. I wish you happiness!"
Well, I must say that after 10 years, these reflections are still very relevant. As our kids grow, we aged and by notime, we will be old. We will need to enjoy our time with them now and not wait for a tomorrow when we have more time or when we are less tired or when we have more money...

Friday, October 12, 2007

A mother's sadness ....

Today (as in 11 Oct) my parents came picked Grace up at 8:15am. I did not join Grace in my dad's car. Infact, I drove alone to my parents place.

On the journey, I feel sudden sense of saddness and loss. I feel that my girl is drifting away from me ... she will be taken care by grandparents and maid instead of her own mother. Sometimes, come to think of it, it is really irony. In today's society, mother does not have the opportunity to take care of their own children. Coz they would have to work. Only when mothers grow old, they will help to take care of the grandchildren instead ... Are we defying the nature?

Actually nothing much happened when Grace were at grandparents place ... at least nothing worth mentioning ... but when she came home, she cried non-stop. We did all things to pacify her but nothing works. So sad :( She wasn't like that for the past few weeks when I was taking care of her (I have no intention to accuse anyone but when she cried for no reason and I can do nothing to pacify her, I feel both irritated and heartache. Especially when she had not cried so badly for a long time already).

Actually I really have serious thoughts of taking no pay leave to take care of Grace myself. But is that really what I want? Can I get use to the life of homemaker? Will I scold my hubby for not helping with the housework? Will I lose my dignity since I'm not contributing financially anymore? I still have so many doubts myself :(

Sometimes I really wish that I can talked to my hubby on this. But the quality time we spent together is so little. Every night, I will be busy settling Grace and by the time I had settled down hoping to talk to him, he will be either engrossed in surfing Net or watching TV or is already snoring his way to dreamland ...

To have a baby is a big adjustment to me. From month of June when baby arrived, in the first month, I had to adjust myself to be a new mother, bearing with the discomfort caused by the wound and accommodating the confinement lady. By the second month, I had to re-adjust myself to learn to take care of the baby myself. It takes me long to love my own baby. And by the time I had developed strong feeling with the baby, I had to "give up" the role as a mother and go back to work. Relationship with hubby seemed to be affected too .... partly attributed to my short temper .. and maybe he is unaware of how I feel emotionally and could not understand my short temper. He ever mentioned that he does not have his own time since the birth of baby ... that's why I would not want to disturb him when he is reading the blogs and watching TV ...

I wish that things will get better when I start work ... maybe all the sadness is just all in my mind ..

Thursday, October 11, 2007

Preparing to Start Work

Time to prepare to start work. Went shopping for working clothes yesterday coz most of my pre-pregnant clothes could no longer fit in :( I'm one size bigger now. But were glad that I still can find clothes that fit me :P ... Must jiayou to slim down to pre-pregnancy weight before Nini's wedding *jiayou* (lao gong .. pls dun tempt me with all the delicious "extras")

Today, I went to "tidy up" my hair. Initially don't intend to colour my hair coz scared may cause allergy to baby if I pump milk / let her latch on. But its so tempting :P So in the end, I gave in to temptation and got my hair coloured (looks so yellowish now .. so scared may look like Xiaxue's hair colour ... that will be awful -> at least in my eyes) ... but lao gong said ok leh :P

The most worrying issue before starting work is baby Grace. She will have to wake up early and picked up by my parents and spend her day at Toa Payoh. I will go for work and pick her up at around 7:30pm. Alot of adjustments is required. To make sure nothing goes wrong, and to let Grace get use to the new schedule, tomorrow we will be running a simulation. My parents will come and fetch baby at 8:15am. Grace will be bathed at my parents place and spend the day there till 7:30pm. I will fetch her home for night bathing. Hope the simulation will run well ...

Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Baby Grace Giggled Loudly

Today, while hubby was teasing Grace by making noises with his tongue, baby Grace was so happy and excited that she giggled so loudly ... We were so surprised that we giggled with her :P We continued to played with her and her giggles continued for at least 30 seconds.

Finally when hubby wanted to captured this "precious" moments with his handphone .. however, once the handphone focus on her, she refused to giggle loudly anymore. She just smiled and babble abit infront of the handphone camera. No matter how we tease her ... she simply refuse to make another giggle noise *disappointed*

Hope to capture her giggle in action next time :P

Grace .. you are so joval .. so adorable my dear grace ... Papa & mama loves you!

二人世界 with a price

Today (08 Oct) we left our Baby Grace with my mother and went for spa at Fullerton. When we left baby Grace at my mum's place and bidded good bye to her .. she seemed to know that papa and mama going somewhere without her .. coz she look upset (or are we too sensitive??? :P)

Though we feel guilty to leave her with my mum, but we are also glad that finally we had some time for ourselves (二人世界). I had a wonderful day today! (Thanks lao gong).

We went to Asian Spa for a scrub followed by a massage. After that, we went for the Afternoon High Tea at Courtyard in Fullerton Hotel. It was so relaxing :D (with a high price though :P High Tea expensive, Spa extravagent, Carpark outragous!!! $17!!!).

But nevertheless, we (at least myself), had a wonderful experience!


Friday, October 5, 2007

One week left ...

Today is Friday. Usually I will be very happy when its Friday coz lao gong will be at home for the next 2 days ... However, today, the feeling is different. Infact I feel sad that its Friday already ... I left with only one week before I start work. Not feeling sad coz I need to go back to work. Instead, I feel sad coz I will not be able to take care of my little Grace 24 by 7 anymore ....

Think i must spend more time playing with Grace .. she is now so adorable :P ... babble, smile (though seldom laugh .. unlike Jovan her little cousin) ... and moves alot ..

I did a handkerchief test on her to check whether she knows how to use her hands ...

Enjoy the movie (Produced by HappyFamilee Entertainment)

Wednesday, October 3, 2007

November is an auspicious month!!!

Wow! I will be attending 3 weddings in month of November (Celia - 12 Nov, Biluan - 17 Nov and Nini - 25 Nov) ... It must be an auspicious month .. feel like bringing my dear grace along with me for Celia's wedding dinner ... but doubt that Grace can sit by herself by then ... think not advisable to bring her along :(

Grace ... now you are looking at your own hands .. what's the next new thing that you will learn :P .. Mama look forward :D

Monday, October 1, 2007

Going back to work soon .... *sad*

Time flies .... going back to work in 2 weeks time. Really cannot bear to leave my dear Grace. After I started work, I would not be able to bathe her every morning. I will not be able to hug her and feed her ... will she be in good hands? That's my major concern *worried*

Also, so worried that she may not recognise me and preferred the maid or my mum rather than me ... hope I can leave early enough to spend more time with her ...

Will cherish this 2 precious weeks ...

Grace .. Mama loves you alot!

Saturday, September 29, 2007

Hubby ... where are you???

Hubby ... where are you? It had been long you last post a blog in your family blog ... and think you are not reading it either ... hmmm ..

Let's see when you see this post *waiting*

Grace realised her limbs ...

Finally ... Grace realised that she has hands and legs ... recently she had been staring at her own hands (till she got crossed eyes *hee*) and legs ... she also babbled alot of nonsense and smiled alot .. so adorable (or coz she is my daughter so I found her adorable??? *wonder*)

Tomorrow, she will be going for her 3rd month immunisation .. hope she don't develop fever *pray hard* .. and I'm going for my lifetime first par smear test *scared*

Friday, September 21, 2007

Grace Talking to Ah Gong

Grace enjoys talking to Ah Gong ... listen carefully :)


Thursday, September 6, 2007

Growing up ....

Grace had grown so much during the past one month. She weighs 5.82kg, measures 59cm in length already. Now, she will smiled at me when i greeted her morning or talked to her ... so happy ... and she started to make all the funny noises ...

Thursday, August 9, 2007

Our Daughter's Name

I have been thinking of putting up this posting but just couldn't find the time for it.
Our daughter's chinese name was suggested by my wife because she like the word "卓", which means "outstanding". We though of using "恩" which means "kind act" as the second character. Hence, her chinese name is "卓恩".
We also used an online name calculation service (http://www.name321.com/) to make sure that this is a good name.

I have always wanted to name my children name using chinese poems or "对联". Hence, I reverse engineer the following:
跃超群显才华, 没忘昔日父母.
My wish is to leave something unique and special for my daughter.

After thinking of her chinese name, I suggested having her English name as "Grace" as it would be meaningful to us. Although we have wanted a child, we did not put in a lot of efforts these years. Grace arrival is like a unearned favour received (en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divine_grace).





Friday, July 27, 2007

First day home alone with baby

So relunctant to wake up this morning ... coz today I have to bathe the baby all by myself. So worried that I cannot handle ... but I cannot lie on the bed and deceive myself :(

Today is my lucky day, I bathed her .. and she did not cry. Infact she is so quiet till I thought I might have strangled her thus she was not able to cry ... *paranoid* :p Infact .. while drying her with a towel after the bathe ... she SMILED at me ... I thought why she love me sooo much :p .. and know what happened???!!! She actually urinated on the towel ... aiyoh .. have to wash her *pi pi* again ... (luckily is only wee wee and not shit shit :P) ...

Baby Grace Full Month

Confinement lady went off in the morning but luckily that hubby wake up with sore eye, so in the end, he was on MC (at least someone is at home with me ... not me home alone with baby) :P

Baby was exceptionally *guai*. She spelt throughout the whole afternoon. In the evening time, we drove her to my mum's place to celebrate her full month :P .. she was really well-behaved. Even though its her feeding time already, she did not scream ... so relieved ...

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Wonderful Birthday ... Thanks Lao gong!

This is the 2nd most memorable birthday I had with my hubby :p

24/07 (00:00am) : I received my birthday present from my dear hubby :D .. its a beautiful watch ... I will take good care of it this time .. will try not to bath with it :P


24/07 (02:00am) : In bed, lao gong showed me the birthday card he had created for me in this blog using his handphone ... I'm so surprised and touched ... *love you lao gong* .... no wonder he was still awake at this hour ...


24/07 (11:00am) : Someone pressed the door bell ... open the door is a dozen of red roses infront of me ... thanks lao gong (but if u self delivered would be even more romantic :P) .. so many surprises ...




24/07 (07:30pm) : Lao gong is back from work .. so happy to see him ... saw him bought a cake for me ...

24/07 (08:30pm) : Melissa & baby Tristan, Li Cheng, Celia reached our house and we had a great time together :D (actually wish to spent some 2 "persons world" time with my hubby ... but am so glad that my colleagues made an effort to visit me during my confinement and celebrated birthday with me ... thanks!)







Lao gong ... thanks for being such a gentle & understanding hubby and father ... u are so supportive and initiative when it comes to taking care of baby .. and at the same time .. so understanding for my emotions / impatience towards the baby ... Lao gong .. thanks and love you alot!



Our Happy Family

Sunday, July 15, 2007

29 June 2007: Baby has jaundice ...

So happy that we will be discharging soon ... but peadiatrician came in saying that baby got slight jaundice and we would need to sunbathe her for 8-10hrs (wow! so long hours!!!) naked when were were back home ....

But soon, nurse came in saying that baby's jaundice level was 10.8 ... had to stay for an additional day in TMC for phototherapy. Grace was then pushed back to the nursery room that very moment ... we feel so sad ... baby cannot go home with us :(

We went home without baby Grace ....

At night, we together with my parents and the confinement lady went to visit Grace at TMC ...


Does she look yellow?







Saturday, July 14, 2007

28 June 2007: Still in Hospital ...

This day, I woke up very early. 7am ... coz I know that mother-in-law will come in very early ... feeling better ... can get out of bed slowly without help ....

I quickly wash up myself ... and before I can finish all the washing up .... my mother-in-law came *sigh* ....

Late morning, I saw hubby walked into the ward ... I'm so happy but puzzled too ... he was suppose to be at work *confused* ... he told me his boss granted him leave until end of the week ... I'm overjoyed! Hubby's presence at this period of time was very important :P

We decided to extend our stay by one more day ....

He stayed overnight with me (unofficial :P) ... I washed my hair that night (shhhh..shh) ... and we ordered McDonald's for his dinner (my supper) ... *yummy* ... Bedtime, we squeezed together in the single bed .... so happy :P

27 June 2007: Next day after delivery ...

02:00am: I was wheeled out from delivery suite back to my ward .... the corridor was very quiet .... am still shivering and feeling nauseas coz I'm having a slight fever .... vomitted again while I'm in my ward. Baby Grace was send to the nursery room ...

02:00am-06:30am: The epidural effect is wearing off ... i start to feel the soreness near my anus area ... my whole body is aching .... i can't sleep .... I feel sorrowful (dunno why) .... AND my dear hubby is snoring his way *anger* (actually thinking back .. he is oso very exhuasted ... he has been a great support throughout the entire birthing process :P) ... I waked him up ... scolded him (poor thing) ... and finally... he asked for some painkillers from the nurse and I managed to sleep ....

07:30am-10pm: After catching an hour sleep .... pple start coming in to visit me (*tired*) ... MIL, BILs, parents, hubby colleagues, my colleagues and my sisters ... I have no strength to get out of bed at all .. and must smile to entertain all visitors ....





10:30pm: This night ... i will have to spend the night alone in this ward coz hubby has to work the next day ....

26 June 2007: Delivery Day ....

26 June 2007, Our Happy Familee BIG day! I will be admitting to TMC for induction. Baby now is 40 weeks old.

7am: Suppose to check-in to TMC but we (me + hubby) is still stuck in CTE (super jam!!!) *panic*

8am: Reached TMC, settle all the admission process and I'm admitted to the delivery suite directly (I thought I can wait at my single bedded ward till delivery :P) ....

09:30am: I was on drip, induction process starting ... no pain yet .... determined to fight the contractions without epidural :p


4:00pm: Deliveried? No lah ... only 4-5cam dilated *jialet* .. so slow ... The pain was super intense (but I can't really remember the pain anymore) ... I was grabbing on to the oxygen mask dearly ... Dr. Cheng (my gynea) warned that the process may drag ... advised me to take epidural ... should I, or should I not? Money ... side effects ... procedure of epidural *scared* .... but the pain is really intense ... okay! take epidural bah ....


4:00pm - 09:30pm: After taking epidural ... No pain ... yeah!!! but 2 legs were totally numb ... cannot move my limbs at all ....

09:30pm: I started to shivered ... feeling nauseas ....

10:00pm: Midwivies changed 3 shifts already ... finally declared that I'm 10cm dilated ... but gynea is nowhere in sight ... midwives asked me to start pushing ... just listen to them .... but after pushing for 10mins no avail, midwives ask me to wait for one hour (huh? give birth also can wait one ... neber mind .. just trust them :p) ... they reduced the dosage for the epidural ... can finally feel my legs :p


11:00pm++: Dr. Cheng reached. I'm so relieved. The actual birthing process started ... Midwives asked me to make 3 pushes at every contraction ... and at the same time ... they were pushing my tummy with their hands too!!! Like that also can :p ... I used all my energy for the first 2 pushes .. and eat snake a bit for the 3rd push ... Dr. Cheng used forceps to *clamp* the baby out to make delivery faster for me ... very soon ...


11:47pm: Baby Grace is out!!! *finally* ....